Welcome to Cyber Alarm!

[Top Dog]

Hi everybody!
I would like to welcome you to Cyber Alarm, the place you may come to report allegation of abuse and exploitation and seek help, advice, consoling and comfort.
I started Cyber Alarm as a result of the abuse and exploitation suffered by my dear mother after she had a stroke, was hospitalized and then placed in a nursing home to receive rehabilitation. What happened is that then she was exploited by other family members, corrupt lawyers and the nursing home where she was placed. All her rights were taken away, she was made a slave of the State of Alabama, and her estate was raided by corrupt officials. Essentially she was stripped of all rights and dignity, raped by the judges, lawyers and care providers. See Elder Rights Association at www.byteland.org/era/index.html
Others who have learned of my dear mother's case have corresponded with me indicating that this is a BIG problem; that similar situations are happening to elderly victims across America.
Such abuse is so wide spread that it was even featured as a topic in the hit ABC program "Boston Legal," which pointed out how lawyers appointed by the court as guardian/conservator often take advantage of the elderly to raid and rob their estates.
Elder abuse and exploitation is a critical issue. I hope that Cyber Alarm will empower people and help them in dealing with similar situations. However, Cyber Alarm is not limited to elder abuse. There are also others being abused and exploited, including children, the mentally challenged, spouses and anyone who has not learned how to stand up for themselves or is not able to do so given their circumstances.
Cyber Alarm is a forum where people can come together and share their stories, give testament to what is happening in their own lives, seek help, advice and counsel as well as comfort.
Please endeavor to use this forum to enlighten and inform everyone. By shining a light on cases of abuse and exploitation we may together begin to bring an end to such tragic and terrible situations.
There may not be time to help my elderly mother, or her child who was kidnapped by family members and taken away from her side, but the stories we share and the light we shine today may help others in need.
Together we can stand and stop the abuse and exploitation of children, of the elderly and others who are helpless.
I thank everyone for their participation and support! Good luck and God bless all!

[emil101]

I am here to report elderly abuse. I wrote a book about how my mother, Diance Carol Haupt, financially exploited my grandmother Lucille Graves for years, before she killed her for two hundred and fifty thousand dollar life insurance policy.

My sisters and I are building a case (book) against her in hopes to get the public outraged about her illegal and immoral behavior against vulnerable adults.

When Diane is in prison that will be the day all the elderly will be safe.

[Top Dog]

Emil101, I am curious to know where this alleged exploitation and murder happened? Was this reported to the police and authorities. What was the result? Did the life insurance company do an investigation? If so, what were their conclusions? Generally life insurance companies try to get out of paying if there is a proven case of murder. In fact, insurance companies always do an investigation and/or inspection even when just talking about property damage. Look at the destruction of life and property from hurricane Katrina -- the insurance companies do not consider homes covered by tidal surge unless they had flood protection and hardly anyone along the coast had that. Certainly a life insurance company is not going to pay $250,000.00 to a daughter who killed her elderly mother if this is proven in a court of law. And unless that is the case accusing your mother of murder is a big jump to make and may be considered defamation and libelous. I would advise you to consult with an attorney before making such a claim and certainly everyone reading such posts should consider your mother innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. Fortunately we live in America where people are still considered innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. So please when you post such allegations realize that unless you can present your case in court and get a conviction, their is no merit to your claim and it is just your opinion. Certainly if you do believe what you have alleged happened is the truth, then you should report this to the proper law enforcement agency and to the insurance company. Otherwise all you have is your "opinion" and you are fully responsible for that opinion. Certainly if there is a hostile relationship between you and your mother with respect to your allegations of exploitation and/or murder, this indicates your mother will not take kindly to your making such allegations and posting them on the Internet or otherwise publishing them.
Elder abuse and exploitation is a BIG problem in this country and around the world. Certainly everyone needs to sound the alarm when such cases are expected. But to do this properly you also need to report abuse and exploitation to the proper authorities. Then seek legal advice so if you do have a legitimate claim lawyers can properly file your claim in court. Of course in a case of murder as you have alleged, this should be reported to police and state authroities and they should follow up with an investigation, arrest and criminal court action. Unless this is done you cannot say your mother "killed" your grandmother. You can only say that in your opinion this is what you allege to have happened, thus assuming all responsibility for your allegations if they are proven false.
Yes, I am aware that the elder care system in this country is corrupt and that the elderly are exploited! When this happens it is terrible and hurt and harms other family members. This is a process which contributes to the destruction of families. It is a process which may involve greed not only by family members, but by nursing homes, care providers, lawyers, judges -- the whole system. This is why more needs to be done to protect the rights of the elderly and enable and empower people to specify and assign their own guardian/conservators, such that these issues are not decided by corrupt, greedy lawyers, judges, nursing home administrators, care providers or even hostile family members.
I hope you are able to get your issues resolved.

[Judy]

My situation is similar to the others but with a different twist. My mom is an 83 year old Alzheimer's patient who has been exploited and subsequently robbed and kidnapped by someone that she thought was a trusted friend. Once this "trusted friend" became aware that my mom's mind was beginning to slip he went to work. He started doing things in her home and on her property to cause stress and anxiety in her life. For instance, she was so proud of her refrigerator because it was one of the few working natural gas powered refrigerators from the 1940's still in perfect working condition in the country. This "trusted friend" chose to get rid of it (he probably sold it for a pretty good price) and replace it with a newer fridge. This was so upsetting to my mom that she screamed, cried, and grabbed his arm so hard that her nails drew blood. But her "trusted friend" simply shook her off and totally disregarded her wishes about this and dozens of other matters. My mother was a biologist and a lifelong nature lover. Her "trusted friend" took it upon himselt to destroy all of her gardens, bushes and most of her trees. He then moved a female friend of his into her house to stay with her as a companion. This friend of his was about my size, age, and haircolor and he moved her into my old bedroom. This confused my mom especially whenever I called her or visited her.
I didn't like what was going on and when I tried to stop it I found out that this "trusted friend" had tricked my mom into signing him as Power of Attorney. I knew that she had no idea what she had done so I went to the Probate Court in Cuyahoga County, OH and applied for guardianship. That is when I discovered that this "trusted friend" had also tricked her into selling him her house for a mere fraction of its worth. Her house, which has been in our family for over 100 years was not for sale. If it would have been, the beautiful suburban property with a huge private Lake Erie beach would have sold for closer to $1,000,000-not the $97,000 the "trusted friend" claims to have paid. Furthermore that $1,000,000 would have been for the house and the property it stands on, it would certainly not have included the complete contents of the house. All 4 floors(basemsnt included)are loaded with valuable antiques but there are also things with only sentimental value including my father's ashes.
That's not all, the "trusted friend" proceeded to move my mom from her home and in with a friend of his in a dangerous inner city neighborhood. Her house is now vacant and locked up tight. I am not permitted to enter the home, not even to remove my dad's ashes or my own baby pictures(if they are even still there).
I called Adult Protective Services. They seemed very concerned and promised to check things out. But once they visited my mom and spoke with the "trusted friend" on the phone they became nothing short of rude to me. They said she was clean and her needs were being met. I guess that the same could be said of any criminal in the prison system. The difference is this, my mom comitted no crime. She did not deserve to lose her freedom and be taken away from her family against her will. she does not deserve to look outside at boarded up houses and junk cars instead of trees, flowers, and lake Erie. Her disease is far enough advanced that she can no longer express her wishes but I am her daughter, her only next of kin, and I know what her wishes are.
The "trusted friend" has hired attorneys and they have so far been granted 4 continuances. That's 6 months my mom has unnecissarily been forced to live in captivity. When I tried to bring her home to live with me, I was stopped from doing this by the police. All of this because the "trusted friend " had a power of attorney registered with the court. I have a letter from my mom's doctor stating that at the time of the signing of the POA and then of course the Warranty deed that she was not competent to make any legal transactions or major decisions. The police told me that my letter needed to go before the judge in order to invalidate the POA, but as I stated the attorney's of the trusted friend and the Probate Court by way of these senseless continuances are preventing me from doing so.
My biggest fear now is not only that of another continuence but that if the hearing does take place the "trusted friend" and his attorneys will have convinced (or dare I say bribed) the right people to cause me to be denied guardianship. In this case my poor mom would be made a ward of the state and therefore dumped in some nursing home and probably be a victim of every kind of abuse imaginable. I am willing and able to care for my mom but I cannot afford to hire the kind of attorneys I need to fight this and win. If anyone can offer me any help or advice please contact me. My mom and I are running out of time, the next hearing is scheduled for July 13, 2006. My email is [e-mail]